A good lesson to learn young, but not always best words for those in times of dismal outlook!
I’ve faced some very difficult times in my life. Times when I just wanted to go to sleep and not wake up the next day. I can’t say I have a lot to complain about compared with many who face such great struggles that my own frustrations could not be more benign. My youngest girl had the worst eczema I’ve ever seen, on a child. It was heartbreaking to see a child, so innocent and yet be in so much pain and irritation all over her body. We were able to get it turned around for the most part after a long, agonizing year and a half of trying different things and God’s many blessings that pulled us through. It was one of the most difficult times in my life.
I don’t have a lot of close relationships at work, but I have come across a few with which I work fairly closely who are in their late 30s and experiencing the early stages of their own midlife crisis. Having never experienced it myself, I cannot relay exactly what is going through one’s mind at this difficult crossroad, but I notice it is significantly worse with those who do not have a close relationship with God. In nearly all cases, I have noticed their level of despondancy being catapulted into full force in their lives after the loss of a close relative, especially a parent.
A coworker of mine mentioned, today, how he really did not care about living anymore. He loved his wife and kids, and realized he needed to take care of them, but it was almost to the point where he was not concerned about them anymore. He did clarify that it wasn’t like he was planning on ending his life, but that he was simply not afraid of dying.
This caught me off guard, because he did not seem like he would have too many worries and was a fairly upbeat guy. I did try to level with him on some things and give him some encouraging words. I also mentioned that I would pray for him to which he responded appreciatively. I’m hoping I can continue to be a source of encouragement for him.
I’ve been reading through the book of Job the past few days, and there can be a little learned about suffering from the book of Job. A preacher once said that probably the worst thing that Satan did to Job was not kill off his wife in addition to his children, and his friends were of no help either– a great example of how not to help a person in suffering. The greatest lesson that can be learned from Job, is that while Job did not understand why such tragedies were happening to him, he never belittled the blessings he had, and knew he would not be able to keep them forever anyways as he said, “Naked I came from my mother’s womb, and naked I will depart. The Lord gave and the Lord has taken away; may the name of the Lord be praised.” Job. 1:21.
Don’t give up in this world, for there is much that can be learned from it, and you never know what you may be able to offer, or what wisdom you can confide to make this world a better place. Also as author Joseph Bayly said “Don’t foget in the darkeness what you’ve learned in the light.” Many of us have been blessed beyond measure. Keep Pressing on!
-TK